Step U

U – Unfold / Express Your Feelings

I talk to animals. After Miko and Jiraiya died, I kept talking to them.

Some nights I sit on the floor where their beds used to be and I just… talk. I tell them about my day. I tell them I am sorry. I tell them I miss the weight of their heads on my leg.

Is that weird? Maybe to someone who does not understand.

But grieving is a journey. Do it your way.

Ways to express your grief

• Crying – Loud. Ugly. In the car. In the shower. On the kitchen floor. Let it out.
• Writing letters – Dear Miko, dear Jiraiya. Tell them everything you did not get to say.
• Making a memory garden – Plant something that reminds you of them.
• Screaming – Into a pillow. Into the woods. Into a voicemail you never send.
• Creating something – A photo album. A painting. A playlist of songs they would have hated.
• Talking to their photo – I do this every morning. It helps.

What not to do

Do not let anyone tell you how to grieve. Not your mother. Not your best friend. Not a stranger on the internet.

If crying feels right — cry. If laughing at a memory feels right — laugh. If sitting in silence feels right — sit.

You are not doing it wrong. There is no wrong.

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